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One Red Dress, Seven Ways – Part Two!

1 red dress 7 ways, part 2Apologies for the long delay. I very very honestly intended to post this second part in the red dress series the week immediately following the first post, but... stuff. Lots of stuff. Sickness and stuff. Booooo! So, anywho, here's part two of making outfits out of a single red dress. How do you think I did?

Refresher!

First, the red dress in question:One Red Dress.pngI purchased this dress on Amazon for under $30! It arrived in two days! It has pockets! It's machine washable! It's "Fun to Wear!" Product Description: Fun to Wear

Refresher!

OUTFIT ONE: Never Again

red dress with dark denim jacket and bandanaThis outfit reminds me of my ill-fated trip to Santa Fe. NEVER AGAIN.What I Added:

  • Long bandana-print scarf –J.Crew
  • dark denim military jacket – Lauren Ralph Lauren, Bloomingdales
  • gold metallic booties – Tipe E Tacchi on Yoox

OUTFIT TWO: Stop Trying to Make Spring Happen

red dress with floral top and yellow leather beltIt has been unseasonably (unreasonably?) cold in San Francisco. Do you think if I wear enough floral patterns I can make Spring come early? Fuck this weather, for reals.What I Added:

  • pink floral print top - Zara
  • pink faux suede trench – Zara
  • yellow leather braided wrap belt – Ada
  • red leather sock boots with little stud thingies – Topshop

OUTFIT THREE: Once Again I Question Your Commitment to Sparkle Motion

red dress with sequin vest and black blazerI am fucking ecstatic about daytime sequins being a thing.What I Added:

  • black and multicolor paillette dress – H&M
  • black 3/4-sleeve blazer – Zara
  • black suede booties – Taryn Rose on RueLaLa

OUTFIT FOUR: Holiday Spirit

red dress with plaid shirt andThis outfit made more sense when I put it together back in December. I was going for "xmas tree." I think I more or less pulled it off. Meh.What I Added:

  • green plaid silk shirt – Equipment at Nordstrom
  • dark denim shell with frayed edges – Gap
  • green suede boots – I can't remember the brand, but from Yoox

OUTFIT FIVE: Leopard and Zippers and Mesh. Oh my!

red dress with mesh undershirt and leopard vestThis feels like a very uncharacteristic "tough" outfit for me. I think I'd have to get myself psyched up just to put it on. Maybe play the Peaky Blinders Spotify playlist. More specifically, The Baddest Man Alive from The Black Keys and RZA:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJ8Gtx45FmcAlthough, now I think I should have put black motorcycle boots with this instead of those fairly tame grey suede ones. They are inadequately badass.What I Added:


OUTFIT SIX: I Guess I Like Grey

red dress with grey turtleneck and grey vestI have a fondness for grey. What does that say about my personality? Anything? It's just a versatile color. Don't judge me.What I Added:

  • grey heather tissue turtleneck – JCrew
  • grey crepe sleeveless trench – River Island
  • embroidered wrap belt – Gap
  • grey suede booties – Dolce Vita

OUTFIT SEVEN: Furry Fury

red dress with faux leather jacket fur scarf and fur mittensNot that kind of furry. The other one.What I Added:

So, yeah. That's part two. Revisiting it now after a few months, I'm less sold on this set than I was the first. But, I think it wasn't half bad! Meh!I hope to get back to blogging more regularly. Fingers crossed.Hope you've been well. 

OOTD: Is It Spring Yet?

Is it Spring OutfitBecause I would really like it to be Spring already.Here's what I wore out to brunch on this rainy San Francisco day.Pink dress, pink trench, pink purse outfitsparkly earringsblue leather wrap belt on a pink floral dressa closer look at the purse and the pinksblue suede maryjanesIs it Spring Outfit

Outfit Info

  • pink floral dress with ruched sleeves (I should have taken a picture of the sleeves!) – ASOS
  • faceted stud earrings – Adriana Orsini on Saks Off 5th
  • blue leather wrap belt – ADA
  • pink faux suede trench – Zara
  • fuschia leather saddle bag – Coach (available on Amazon!)
  • blue suede mary janes – Camper

Hope you're having a frank, productive, springlike day.... wherever you are.

OOTD: Redrum

carpet from the shining outfit.pngHad a pretty shitty holiday in terms of my health. It turns out altitude sickness is extremely serious, potentially fatal, and fucking TERRIFYING.So, today, I kicked off the new year and my road to recovery with follow-up visits to the doctor and a brand new therapist for my brand new altitude-sickness-near-death-related anxiety! Hooray! This dress and scarf combo featuring the carpet pattern from The Shining just felt right for the occasion. You know?Anywho, pics and info behind the cut.the carpet from the shiningcarpet from the shining dressscarf and hermes scarf ringtaryn rose booties

Outfit Info

Hope you had better holidays than I did! HAPPY NEW YEAR! 

One Red Dress, Seven Ways – Part One!

one red dress seven waysRemember that time I challenged myself to style one blue dress in seven different ways? People really responded positively to that post, and, as an individual who craves external validation, I thought I'd take another stab at that formula. In fact, I thought I'd take two stabs.So, this time, I challenged myself to style a single red dress – same make and model as the blue one – in not just seven, but 14 different ways. To make it even more difficult, I prohibited myself from using any of the items – shoes, accessories, jackets, etc. – from the previous challenge.How'd I do? You tell me! Here's Part One!The red dress in question:One Red Dress.pngLike the previous example, I purchased this dress on Amazon for under $30! It arrived in two days! It has pockets! It's machine washable! It's "Fun to Wear!" Product Description: Fun to WearTo the outfits!

OUTFIT ONE: Tan–Talizing (No, I'm not a dad, but thanks for asking!)

red dress with grey sweater and tan otk bootsFor this outfit, I channeled my inner college student. Well, maybe not my inner college student, but an idealized version of a college student – one you might see in Lifetime movie. Maybe she gets her heartbroken by her high school boyfriend but finds strength, independence, and sisterhood after she reluctantly joins a sorority.  You go, girl!What I Added:


OUTFIT TWO: I'm Beginning to Question Your Commitment to Sparkle Motion

red dress with sequin top.pngI LIKE SEQUINS. I just think they're neat. I especially enjoy these particular sequins that you can rub in different directions to change colors. It's like a sophisticated version of a hypercolor shirt. Sequins are terrific and we should all wear them all the time.What I Added:

  • sequin top – River Island
  • denim jacket – Gap
  • red leather sock boots with little stud thingies – Topshop

OUTFIT THREE: Cruise Director

red dress with white poplin wrap blouseMaybe cruises get a bad rap. I mean, yeah, there's all the crashing and the food-borne illnesses, the waste and pollution and the mindless tourism, but there's also shuffleboard! This is a terrific outfit in which to play shuffleboard!What I Added:

  • maxi-twilly scarf – Hermes
  • gold mors scarf ring – Hermes
  • white cotton poplin wrap blouse – Gap
  • gold metallic booties – Tipe E Tacchi on Yoox

OUTFIT FOUR: Sport-o

red dress with sweatshirt and sneakersYou know what I don't do? Sports! But that doesn't mean I can't dress like I do. I can dress however the fuck I want. You don't know me.What I Added:

  • black mesh mock-neck top – Forever 21
  • blue cropped sweatshirt (I cut the neck off for reasons) – H&M
  • "No Pants" enamel pin – PINTRILL
  • "Valentine's Day" Insta-Pump Fury sneakers – Reebok

OUTFIT FIVE: I Am Your Filipino Aunt

red dress with cream shell and mesh undershirtWhen I put this outfit together, I said to myself: "This looks like someone's Asian aunt." And then I realized that I am an Asian aunt. So, I'm pretty sure I can get away with wearing this.What I Added:


OUTFIT SIX: I'm a Lumberjack and I'm Okay

red dress with plaid shirt and navy vestDid you know I own a plaid shirt? Did you know I own Dr. Martens? These are unusual additions to my wardrobe and I'm pretty excited about them! I feel like I'm growing as a person!What I Added:

  • plaid flannel shirt – Old Navy
  • navy sleevless jacket – Halogen on Nordstrom
  • hand-tooled leather clutch – vintage
  • butterscotch "Leona" boots – Dr. Martens

OUTFIT SEVEN: Red Dead

red dress with red sweaterNot a ton to say about this outfit other than I am SO EXCITED for the upcoming Red Dead Redemption 2. JUST GIVE IT TO ME ALREADY.What I Added:

Soooooo... whaddaya think?! I really tried to create variety and push myself to make new combinations while still being true to my personal tastes. The real test, of course, will be wearing these outfits IRL. I'll let you know how that goes in future posts.In the meantime, stay tuned for PART TWO! A whole new set of seven outfits built around one red dress is yet to come!Hope you've been having a frank and productive holiday.  

HOLIDAY DRESSING, PART 4: BIRTHDAY

Holiday Dressing, Birthday.pngThe most important celebration of the holiday season is easily my birthday, December 15th. Pretty sure it's a federal holiday. So, go ahead and skip out on work tomorrow.To help you celebrate, I've put together a little list of Redbubble dresses that are appropriately birthday-themed. Enjoy!Birthday Print Dress_1Birthday Print Dress_2Birthday Print Dress_3Birthday Print Dress_4Hope you enjoy my birthday! May there be many crazy shenanigans! 

One Blue Dress, Seven Ways

One Blue Dress, Seven WaysI challenged myself to create seven days of outfits out of a single, super cheap blue dress I got on Amazon. How did I do?First, the dress in question:a simple blue dress.pngI purchased this dress on Amazon for about $25! It arrived in two days! It has pockets! It's machine washable! SO MANY EXCLAMATION POINTS. Bonus: As the product description so helpfully points out, it's "Fun to Wear!" Product Description: Fun to WearAnd now... the outfits...

OUTFIT ONE: Go, Sailor!

One Dress, Seven Ways – Outfit 1, Sailor(Pro-tip: It might help to listen to Go Sailor by Go Sailor while you look at this one.) This is what I would wear to commandeer a ship. Who would dare defy me in this getup? NO ONE.What I Added:


OUTFIT TWO: Almost Minimalist

One Dress, Seven Ways – Outfit 2, Almost MinimalistI would love to be one of those super sleek, minimalist ladies who always look timeless and chic, but, omg, I LOVE stuff. Spangly, shiny, sparkly stuff! So, I added these fancy earrings for a little extra "me."What I Added:

  • charcoal turtleneck sleeveless tunic – Gap
  • grey, faux suede trench coat – Zara
  • charcoal OTK wedge boots – Stuart Weitzman
  • sparkly earrings – Kenneth Jay Lane on Net-a-Porter

OUTFIT THREE: Outdoorsy

One Dress, Seven Ways – Outfit 3, OutdoorsyI don't care for camping, but I do enjoy a nice walk in the woods. Trees. Creeks. Maybe a nice squirrel to settle near me and share meaningful glances with. That sounds alright. Here is an outfit I would wear for such an occasion.What I Added:


OUTFIT FOUR: Casual Day

One Dress, Seven Ways – Outfit 4, Casual DayHey, look! Sneakers! They make me so sneaky. Sneaking here and there and everywhere. I put on these shoes and get up to nefarious doings.What I Added:


OUTFIT FIVE: Sporty

One Dress, Seven Ways – Outfit 5, SportyI am dabbling in bold color combos lately, but find myself always bringing in a neutral because I am a coward. Womp womp.What I Added:


OUTFIT SIX: A L'il Bit Country

One Dress, Seven Ways – Outfit 6, A Li'l Bit CountryI am from Texas. I enjoy denim jackets and neckerchiefs. Don't judge me.What I Added:

  • light pink scarf (a xmas gift from Ben!) – Hermes
  • paladium scarf ring (a birthday gift from Ben!) – Hermes
  • light pink denim jacket – H&M
  • navy suede maryjanes – Camper

OUTFIT SEVEN: Color & Texture

One Dress, Seven Ways – Outfit 7, Color & TextureAnd, finally, I found that I had a jacket that was almost the same color as the dress. So, yeah... that. Plus, this awesome handmade scarf/necklace hybrid that is super convenient for someone like me, who is allergic to most metals. :(What I Added:


And just in case you're a glutton for punishment, here are all the individual images for these outfits:
Sooo... what do you think? How did I do?I must say, this was a great exercise to go through – fun and challenging and effective at making me reconsider my go-to outfit scenarios. Still, there's definitely room for improvement/innovation/experimentation. I'll keep working on it. ;) 

OOTD: Just Say No to Pants

2I've said it before and I'll say it again: pants are for jerks. Don't let cold weather sway you from an anti-pants stance. Stay strong! Individual pics and outfit info behind the cut...35

Outfit Info

  • purple sweater dress – ASOS
  • checked wool belted blazer – H&M
  • charcoal wedge over-the-knee boots – Stuart Weitzman
  • yellow leather clutch – Baggu
  • "No Pants" pin – PINTRILL

Have a frank and productive day, friends.Follow my blog with Bloglovin

OOTD: Yarns

multicolored yarn dress and scarf outfitWore another Redbubble dress and scarf combo out to lunch today. More pics and details behind the cut.multicolored yarn dress and scarf outfitmulticolored yarn dress and scarf outfit_jacket openmulticolored yarn dress and scarf outfit – scarf in bow

Outfit Details

Hope you're swell!

OOTD: Pink Yarn Print

pink yarn full outfit.pngI like red and I like pink and I like putting outfits together and taking pictures of them. Oh, look! Here are some pictures now!pink yarn ootdpink yarn print scarf, safety pin and earringspink yarn print close uppink yarn outfit details with bagred leather studded shoes close up

Outfit Info

  • "Pink Yarn" dress and scarf by etherize  – Redbubble
  • hammered silver studs – Gorjana
  • giant red safety pin used as a scarf ring – Amazon
  • red faux leather moto jacket – Zara
  • turquoise leather clutch – Baggu
  • red leather booties – Topshop

Hope you're doing swell!

Holiday Dressing, Part 1: Christmas

Holiday Dressing, Part 1: ChristmasMaybe you've noticed my love of Redbubble dresses (examples here, here, herehere, and here). Maybe you'd prefer to call it an obsession. Maybe you should stop judging and get off my back for once. Maybe you're kind of jerk. Maybe you can fuck right off.WAIT! WAIT! Don't go. I'm sorry. Look! I picked out a whole bunch of Christmas-print dresses for you. 12 of them, in fact, for the 12 days of Christmas. Isn't that cute? Forgive me and look at these awesome dresses!BEHOLD!Christmas by franceslewisGodsend by milesmoodyCandy Cane Pattern Dark Green by evannaveSparkles, Stars and Shiny Things Photograph by Heatherianchristmas gold leg lamp by gossipragSnowman, Christmas decoration by homemadecreate"Jingle Bells" by ImagequeenChrismas Fairy Lights Pattern by evannaveChristmas Antiquities, Winner of the Christmas Theme Challenge 2016 by fengshuibabeChristmas Tree by JaneenFarmerChristmas Card by ChuckcGlitter Stripes by kirbykilpatrickPlease send one of each to my home immediately.Anywho, as the title suggests, this is but the first in a series of posts with my picks for holiday dresses. Over the coming weeks, I'll cover Hanukkah, Festivus, Birthdays (because it's almost my birthday), and New Year's Eve! STAY TUNED AND LET'S NEVER FIGHT AGAIN!

OOTD: Big Trouble In Little China

big trouble in little china outfit.pngMy outfit homage to one of the greatest films of all time.Had planned to wear this out to dinner one night over the Thanksgiving holiday, but, instead got lazy and ate leftovers. It was the environmentally friendly choice!A closer look at the details...lo pan – big trouble in little chinajack burton – big trouble in little chinafree people royale flats.png

Outfit Info:

  

OOTD: Playing My Cards Right

Carded Outfit.jpgHad a terrific dinner at The Progress last night. Go there and eat all the things immediately!ALL THE THINGS.IMMEDIATELY.This is what I wore. Bigger pics and details behind the cut.playing cards dressplaying cards dress with mesh top detail

Outfit Info

HAPPY WEDNESDAY BEFORE THANKSGIVING, FRIENDS!

OOTD: Thanksgiving Prep

Thanksgiving OutfitIf everything goes according to plan, I'll be spending most of the Thanksgiving holiday in some variation of jammies – jammies with a jacket to go get some coffee, jammies with some slippers to head to the fridge, jammies and a blanket to catch up on some Netflix. Jammies with some jammies to sit and think about jammies. Jammies.Anywho, I reckoned I should get a little dressing up in before jammies-gedon. I wore this yesterday to go pick up a turkey and gather provisions.Outfit info and a closer look at this awesome Redbubble print behind the cut. Forest Creek @ Sunrise in Fall by DyrkWystI want to go to there, but part of me suspects a demogorgon inhabits these woods. Only one way to find out...[gallery ids="7632,7631" type="rectangular"]

Outfit Details

Side note: I've had these Frye boots of TEN (10!) years. They really hold up. 13/10 would recommend.How's your Tuesday going? Good? Good. 

DIY: Custom Printed Dresses

summer colors woven paper dressMaybe this is news to no one, but did you know you could have super cute dresses printed from your own photographs? I only found out over the weekend and it continues to blow my damn mind. Isn't technology amazing, you guys? WHAT WILL THEY THINK OF NEXT?Needless to say, I've been very busy ripping up construction paper and taking pictures to create my own, one-of-a-kind prints. Look at me! I'm a textile designer!Pics and links behind the cut.summer sky paper dresssummer stripe paper dresssummer weave paper dresssummer colors woven paper dressAll of these were created on Redbubble. It is incredibly easy to upload your own images and make any variety of objects – clothing items, prints, accessories, etc. – with your prints. Just makes sure your images are enormous. There's information about dimensions and formats right here.Anywho, just wanted to share what I think is an insanely awesome development in the world of on-demand, customized everything. The future is now!Oh, and I've also uploaded hella old photographs to make stuff out of. If you're curious, you can see my entire "portfolio" at this link.

Matchy Matchy

matchymatchyAfter last week's spot-on color matching of shoes to dress, I began to wonder what other items I own that might coordinate so perfectly. It turns out I have a lot of inexplicably, perfectly matching clothing items. How? Why? It can't be that clothing/shoe/accessory manufacturers all collude to favor a given palette each season/year (despite what Pantone would have you believe) – many of these items were purchased several years apart. Is it simply that *I* favor particular colors? No way. That can't be. I'm, like, a complex and ever-evolving woman whose tastes are informed by and are a reflection upon the zeitgeist... YEAH!Or, I just really like blue.[Vince Camuto dress, Bagatelle leather & tweed jacket, Baggu clutch, Donald J. Pliner platform sandals, vintage belt purchased on Etsy.]

Can Fatty Wear Horizontal Stripes?

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keystonekapers

Yeah, I think I can! I am not usually a fan of stripes. There's something sort of juvenile about them to me. Juvenile or prison-y. Stripes belong on children and old-timey, keystone kapers inmates. This dress gets a pass, though, because the stripes are not true stripes – they're all stylized and wiggley. Maybe all this busy busy is what's helping me get away with the look. That, and the blazer to streamline my more troublesome areas. Overall, I'd say it works out.Bonus: Shoes I've never worn are being put too good use! It's bizarre how perfectly they match the dress. [Wearing: H&M blazer, Vince Camuto dress, Patrizia Motta shoes]

Buying Stuff & Thinking About Buying Stuff

packed closet

You know what always sounds like a really fun time? Buying stuff. You know what's almost better than buying stuff? Thinking about buying stuff. I can spend hours just poring over shopping sites, flash sale sites, even just plain fucking Amazon. (I love you, Prime!) Well, that's got to stop. I have too much stuff. No one needs this much stuff. It's ridiculous.I've already begun working on it. Over the last few months, I've sold, given away, or thrown away dozens of giant bags of shoes and clothing. In fact, in a single week, I sold 17 pairs of shoes, the majority of which I had never even worn. That is completely absurd.Culling my closet is the first step. Additionally, I'll be making an effort not only to curb my purchase behaviors, but to reduce the time I spend simply looking at stuff and thinking about buying it. This will likely free up a good two hours of my day, every single day. Isn't that kind of horrifying? Fuck.

To reinforce these efforts, I'll also be starting yet another picture project—a sort of "item appreciation day" series of posts. There's a familiar saying: "Out of sight, out of mind." Well, if I put things in plain sight, will they become top of mind? If I make an effort to sort through all those items sitting unworn and forgotten in my closet, take pictures of them, and post those pics to this blog, my awareness of them will certainly increase dramatically. And then, perhaps I'll be more likely to make use of them. And then, perhaps I'll be less likely to feel the need to purchase new stuff.It's just so crazy it has to work! And, it starts right now.

Whatcha Realizing, Jerk?

whatcharealizinjerk

So, it's been exactly a month since I (re)started my self-portraits project. I thought I'd share a few high-level observations from the experience.

Observation 1: Mirrors Are Lying Liars That Tell Lies

Prior to this project, my standard morning ritual involved at least a cursory glance in the mirror before heading out the door, but no extended dawdling. During this project, however, I've been spending a great deal more time consulting the mirror, who has told me things like:

"Ehh, not bad."

"Indeed, those colors work well together."

"You are so totally pulling this off. What an off-puller, you!"

clueless_polaroids

Well, guess what: those were all horrible, horrible lies. But, it took being confronted with the photographic evidence for me to realize it. More accurate statements would have been: Actually, yes, bad. In fact, those colors work badly together and you should feel badly. The only thing you're really pulling is my eyes... from my head... because omg the pain. I can't necessarily blame the mirror, though. Lying is in his very nature. The fault is mine. This is a lesson I should have learned long ago from Clueless...  I will grant that cameras can be just as fallible and variable as mirrors, but, given the age we live in – with all its selfies, belfies (NSFW), and "Pics or it didn't happen," – photos are the rule and not the exception. I should have known the mirror was irrelevant. This whole project is about getting comfortable with being in pictures, not just looking in the mirror and calling it a day. It's just that I had expected the mirror to give at least a hint of how a finished pic might look. Turns out the only real way to find out how something will look in a photograph is by putting it in a photograph. Who'd a thunk?

Observation 2: Covering Up My body Isn't Helping

homemade ghost costume

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O7QSNulqPgM]Since our expulsion from the garden of eden, humankind has known instinctively to hide its shame. But what do you do when you're ashamed of your whole body?Just like my fat-ass spectral friend here, I have taken to covering up fairly extensively – long sleeves, long skirts, tall boots, high necklines. Now, none of these things is bad per se and, in fact, they can be pretty and even quite stylish. But, what I've found is that the combination of all of them, used consistently over many repeated outfits, only seems to call attention to the fact that I'm trying to hide – to make more noticeable my discomfort with my own body. This is exactly what I'm hoping to avoid.You've probably heard some fashion-y quote like, "Outfits are the armor you wear to face the day." There's something to that, for sure. Clothes really can impact your attitude, comportment, confidence, and the perceptions of others. But, for me, my outfits have crossed that fine line between confidence booster and giant, swaddling, full-body security blanket. This is not to say that from here on out it's all pasties and hot pants. I'll probably simply try pairing my more conservative staples with less conservative ones – maybe show a little knee or elbow now and again, perhaps even a glimpse of collarbone (I think I still have those). Baby steps.But, wait. Was your knee-jerk response to this observation "You have nothing to be ashamed of! Just don't feel ashamed"? Well, that brings me to observation number 3...

Observation 3: It doesn't matter what other people think (If what they think is Positive)

For the Simpsons-impaired: Link

criticism

I don't mean this as some sort of Pinterest-y, quotation-over-landscape, soft-focus palliative. I believe the "I'm-just-gonna-keep-doing-me-and-if-other-people-have-a-problem-with-it-that's-on-them" attitude can be incredibly problematic and, when taken to it's furthest extent, just plain stupid...You know what? Maybe some folks should question themselves and what they're up to more often. Isn't it more infuriating when some asshole never doubts for a moment how forthright and just is his cause? Self-doubt and nagging internal recriminations have plagued some of the best and smartest folks I know. It's part of what makes them so great, and allows them to become even better.What I mean by saying that it doesn't matter what others think is that, ultimately, the opinions of others can do very little to bolster my feelings of self-worth or my own opinions of my abilities, appearance, etc. If all it took for me to feel happy with my appearance were the compliments of others, my boyfriend alone would have me thinking I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. While I respect his opinions (eh, more or less...), and such sweet/kind words fill me with warm/fuzzy feelings, and I'm grateful that he thinks so highly of me, none of it changes the way I feel about myself.Consider the familiar examples of models with body-image issues, or pretty much every successful person who's experienced imposter syndrome. The world is telling these folks in no uncertain terms that whatever they're doing, they're do it right, but the praise/accolades are just background noise (albeit, fairly pleasant background noise) to the much stronger signal of self-criticism.The same is not true for the negative opinions of others, though. Those seem only to reinforce whatever ill opinions one may already possess. To continue with the sound analogy above, external criticism only amplifies the internal signal, just like constructive interference, but, hey, let's give it the more charitable name of "Constructive Criticism."See? This illustration has waves, mathematical symbols, and graph paper...  That's science! You have to believe science! But, really, think about your own experiences (provided you're not an asshole). When someone says something positive to you, do you not just pass it off as kindness or flattery? But, if that same person says something negative, doesn't it simply confirm your worst fears? I'm not sure why we have such double standards for the opinions of others, but we do and it sucks.All this said, my hope is that by recognizing and calling out the above issues, I position myself to address and maybe even overcome them. Or, not. Who knows? Either way, the project continues and I will, no doubt, have more to share soon. Thanks for reading.

Tiger

tigertigerYou know, I was really excited to wear this outfit and thought it was going to be so rad (TIGER PRINT!), but, as soon as I saw the pictures... ehhhhh. I think what's bothering me is that it's a much shorter dress than I would normally wear (I am scandalized by the appearance of my own knees!), and the white jacket just looks a lot boxier than it did in the mirror (oh, those filthy, lying mirrors!) Also, It looks like I'm flexing my big toes. I should probably paint those suckers, too.I was really hoping I'd be better at this by now. :(But, hey, I've managed four straight weeks of outfit posts! That's gotta be a new record for me![Wearing: Julie Brown dress, Eliza J jacket, Taryn Rose sandals, Hobo wristlet.]

Crazy Hair, Don't Care

hairI think I've mentioned before that I always put my hair up when I know I'm going to be outside for any length of time. The above is what happens when my hair thingie breaks on my way home.To be honest, it's not a half-bad look. Maybe a little frizzy, but I do love myself some big hair.P.S. A post with my hair down means one more week without cutting my hair. Woohoo![Wearing: Michael Kors dress, Taryn Rose sandals, Mimic Designs clutch.]